Marriage Blah Blah Blah

The subject of convenience marriages came up the other day, and that made me remember a particular incident of a couple years ago. I was friends with a girl involved in that type of marriage (she married a guy to get permanent citizenship, tsk). She had a male friend who wanted the same scenario, and, as I was her only single girl friend, she tried to set that up with me.

I remember having to give that serious thought. On one hand, that would have been pretty much illegal and ugh, the paperwork and stuff. But on the other, all this dating crap would have been a non-issue. Besides, I tend to agree with the mentality that you're just gambling with your choice of partner and that you really do have equal chance of happiness (or contentment, at least) regardless of the partner you choose.

Could just be my bitterness talking, but digest that for a bit. I was told more than once that people are on their best behavior while dating (and, to an extent, while living together), but once they're married, all holds are off. Well... *I* can fake being a pleasing, sweet, dutiful partner for a solid length of time, so theoretically speaking, I could just trick someone into marrying me and then turn into a sour, horrifying mess of a woman because mwahaha, it takes effort to get divorced! Rar!

I don't think that this happens often to that particular extreme... but it happens in small ways all the time. The point, I guess, is that you never *really* know a person until you're in a legally binding relationship that's difficult to walk away from (especially in Texas). You might find that, ten or twenty years down the line, you aren't compatible at all anymore. You've grown apart. That sort of scenario happens every single day.

Maybe I'm just not exposed to many relationships that work in the long term anymore. Fidelity seems outdated. I haven't seen but a handful of marriages that are built on respect and friendship.

I know I'm rambling. I'd apologize, but... nah.